How Travelling taught me what I want

Ok, well well. It's time isn't it. That I reveal how travelling has taught me what I like and dislike when meeting girls?

Be a man of self respect & dignity

I am in Vietnam right now writing this for you and was actually planning to write a different blog post but then it hit me like a lighting strike "I need to write about this". I'm a handsome dude, a dude with high standards. A dude in his mid 20s on which girls constantly make the first move on, hence I developed a lot of self respect.

Knowing...

Hey there is girls out there choosing me but I am after some girl that's only halfway interested in me? Come on, I am better than that. When that realization hit, things changed.

How so? The girls and women here are the opposite of what I am used to... Women & girls have paid for me often, made the first move on me often.

The moment your self respect increases everything changes

I am now in the phase in my life where both women and men get pissed off just by getting close to me. I remember meeting a dude with high status himself and he-'s got good money. He was treated poorly by a rude staff member in a cafe. Low status people treat high status people like crap. More of that in a different blog post. But how does this tie into dating? Well, if you carry yourself with more respect all the sudden it's because there was a internal status shift and hence a external one. Women and girls react to that, everyone reacts to it! I am now in a phase of my life where I realize that you gotta chose yourself. You can't pick other people, ever. You must chose yourself.

Have your circle and stick to it. You are constantly dealing with new energies, new first impressions when meeting new people. I am not against meeting new people but you must limit it otherwise you are running on risk of developing burnout. But that as well is a topic for a different subject.

Now let me get to it... What has shifted? Vietnamese girls have a tendency to be gold diggers They are tense, they are terrible listeners, always on the phone and they are extroverted and not LOW maintenance and fake smiles everywhere. They are easily offended. They are pick me up girls. Many times they randomly got mad at me for no reason. Ever since I am a kid I never showed interest in vietnamese girls. I don't know why. Maybe because I sensed that they lack femininity. The media is trying to sell you this picture of "Vietnamese girls are so submissive and subtle and sweet" But in reality they are highly manipulative, cunning and narcissistic! Now to make things weirder, a girl from Saigon but originally from Da Nang asked me out. Weird yeah, because they are so shy... RIGHT... Another lie from the media.

I am used to girls being low maintenance. But what does that mean? Them being easy going and not constantly needing compliments and being smiled at! I am used to get attention wherever I go. You think I'll cry because one girl rejected me? :) There is more than 10 others waiting for me:) Now, are all vietnamese girls the same? No, but for sure many!

Dating Lessons

I learned it the hard way. I met all kinds of girls. From narcissistic, to histrionic to borderline... To pick me up girls, to bold girls, to shy girls, to high status girls such as a famous spanish YouTuber, a ex university teacher... :) to even strippers. But in the process I learned that looks arent't even half of the whole attraction game. I realized after a lot of painful years that many times the good looking girl is really boring because she lacks sexual experience, so the average looking girl is actually hotter. Not always, but sometimes yeah.

I was lied to, cheated on, lied to girls a lot, cheated on them, was afraid to express desire and I wasn't quiet comfortable in my skin as a man. But when that changed, my sex life changed fast. Girls made their move on me all the sudden, started paying for me and sex on the first date. Yeah, but besides that there were many lessons I had to learn. Lessons I will explain to you in the second part of this blog post.

Thanks for reading.

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