Travelling Taught Me What I Want: Part 2

Welcome to Part 2. In this part I will explain in better detail what type of women and girls I met along my travels and how their behaviour taught me what to look for in a sex partner or what to look for in a potential romantic partner.

The Beginning

I was in the Czech Republic. The first country I ever travelled to. There was lots of sex there but also lots of betrayal. I was hurt a lot there but I also hurt girls there quiet a lot. I remember being there and after like not even 3 weeks there I caught a dude and a girl doing it on the stairs in a hostel at 2 AM, LOL. I remember dating a Mexican girl there (that was during my second time in the Czech Republic).

I went out yeah, but not often, I was spending the majority of my time in saunas and talking to girls. But it was not all sunshine and rainbows. I remember having a burnout there, so I started to become rude to girls but they remained friendly to me.

Eventually I had to heal that and I did, not fully but a bit yeah. But as long as that wasn't healed I attracted girls that wanted a relationship with me immediately, gave me sad looks upon meeting them, felt guilty around me and tried playing me and use me as a attention tool for their ego.

The Catabasis

Months later I was in Hungary and it hit me, the real healing began. I saw things I didn't before, so a as the greeks call it, a "Catabasis" began. What is a "Catabasis". It is a time in a persons life, usually in a man's life where the boy in him dies. For reference, please read "Iron John" from Robert Bly:)

Native American Man

I kept being confronted with certain patterns and I didn't like it, yet a part of me craved healing and liberation from my boyishness. Then it hit me. I was on what I thought is a date, but it wasn't. It was just me and a girl hanging out together, but I never made my intention clear. So how could she know right? Turns out she is about to get married.

Then she tells me that she is disappointed I thought in that direction "That we are gonna have a thing together". The same or next night I burst out in tears realizing what dick I am for thinking that every girl I hang out with, is "mine". That's not dominance, that's insecurity! And if you think I didn't think about every girl that way... You are wrong!

Almost all girls I met were dysfunctional, had drama, unhealed issues and self esteem issues. The damage that has done to me... Oh boy! More of that in my upcoming article on Thursday!

So what is it then, that I learned here? Well I learned that I don't wish to be around unavailable girls!

The First Shift?

Months after Hungary my intention seemed to take fruition. All the sudden there were some or actually many single girls that appeared on my radar. How so? Well back in Hungary I have said I am done chasing girls whom's relationship status I don't know! And I intend to only meet single girls. The girls there were needy, but along my whole journey I met some needy girls. I am not into that. Be good on your own. Be confident. Know what you want.

The Gold Diggers Of Romania

This time I was in Romania and the women there flirted with me, or did they? No, they flirted with my pocket.

The Arrival to what I want?

Spain - I am on a Island and I met lots of amazing people and quiet a few amazing girls. Soft and feminine, it was nice. But that was after a long time of suffering that I arrived to that, to be able to meet such girls. Without prior intense healing I would have not even recognized them. But it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows.

There I learned to make my move on girls early, be bold but smooth and to not shy away from risking to "lose" her. To step into my leadership and that when one girl annoys me or rejects me, just ditch her and look for a new one. There I learned that not every attention I receive must be acted on.

Portugal - Flirting & Warmth

There I learned to flirt again, something I haven't done in years. The local girls were flirting with me. I got along greatly with them. But the expats there... They taught me that if you reject a girl chances are that she will try to destroy your life.

Malta - The Big Awakening

Parties left and right, girls hitting on me and met quiet some great people there. But then the breakdown... It was like someone pressed a button and said "Wake the fuck up motherfucker!" In Malta I was rejected a few times quiet harsh and some of the girls there had a weird taste in men, so I slammed the door on that shit and chose to put in the necessary work to be able to attract the girls into my life that like me for who I am.

Second Greece Trip - The First Signs?

I met quiet a few super feminine and emotionally available girls there. I enjoyed it and I said to myself "Yeah I want more of this", being able to sit with a girl and sit for hours not needing to sleep with each other immediately like my past self has done it, that feels right.

Taiwan - The Trigger

I lived there for almost 3 months and I got asked out quiet a few times there by locals girls, but here's the clicker, I didn't have time for them, I was busy working. So here the lesson was that I intend to only meet girls when we both have the time and that I will not take time to meet her just because she wants to. Work is more important than a one night stand. Period!

Shifting Gears - The Complete Reconstruction Of My Dating Life

Now I am in Vietnam and realizing what I really want... Most people here don't trust each other and friendships and even relationships here are weird and not really based on trust. I have been here now for almost 4 1\2 weeks and I felt their trust issues here early. Girls here don't trust me, neither do I. Why? Girls here are loud, live with their parents until 30, sometimes longer and they lack femininity.

Girls here have no freedom. Not even in Egypt did I see what I saw here. See, as dysfunctional as many or most girls I dated were, they trusted me and I think that's beautiful and sad at the same time. Girls here in Vietnam are not friendly. There is lots of subtle rudeness, racism and manipulation. Couples and elders are the only ones respected here. Single Men here are barely respected. Girls here like money, yeah, they are gold diggers and will do passport marriage and probably cheat on you with a vietnamese guy or talk behind your back or both. Masculine men are not respected here. Girls here like soft men. A girl that likes soft men is dangerous for society.

Honda - probably tuned? :)

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