Peoples assumptions & why they're dangerous
- creativejourney999
- Feb 2
- 6 min read
I call these types of people lawyers.
What lawyers do...
Assume things - usually without enough evidence with a lack of it. Guess what! Most people are like that I'll explain why! Many times people assume I am looking for something while I'm just pausing somewhere. People like that are poison for your mind & for your peace too. People that rely on thinking, not on FEELING. Throughout my travels I met many thinkers, not many people that have the ability to FEEL EMOTIONS. "Huh?"
Most people are not familiar with their emotions, nor with others peoples emotions, hence they rely on assumptions instead of on facts. In the socializing context? What could possibly go wrong? Imagine this, people talk, people assume, people guess...
The result...
CHAOS!
People fail to read people all the time. They say "Don't categorize people" "Don't judge someone based on the first impression" & other stuff, you just don't wanna hear! If you don't categorize, what else are you gonna do? 10'000 years ago, if people didn't filter out threat from non-threat, guess what happened, THEY DIED! or got injured! or robbed!
Be socially smart
Read environments, rooms, & people. Not everyone is your friend. You must learn to understand that to base "knowledge" on assumptions, is no different from what scientist, do in a lab. But you are not a scientist & how those experiments sometimes end... That's basically your social life.
Your social life
Likely unpredictable, but not in a good way. You are constantly scanning & you never know who's trustworthy. You constantly test people & look for common ground. Does that sound like you? Well, that was me not too long ago... Where I just didn't really know
Who has good energy
Who has bad energy
Who is gonna bring peace into my life
Who is gonna try taking peace from me
Who is potentially full of anger or hate or other conflicted unresolved emotions
But then I went through a process I call
The Masculine Travel Process
Despite it's male name all the teachings in there are absolutely applicable for my female readers too!
In this blog post I will not explain what the masculine travel Proccess is, but I will explain a few of the decisions I made in that proccess. I intended to leave behind toxic environments & toxic people, so what did I do? Taking notes, listening more, talking less, observing more. Asking more questions, believing what I see & not ignoring it like I did before many times, & that's exactly when all types of people had the chance to hurt me.
Covert narcissists
Sociopaths
Women that have BPD
Narcissists
Just to mention a few...
So I started to learn techniques how to destroy these people, techniques I will teach to you, but I am getting ahead of myself, months, at least:)
How peoples assumptions show up in daily life
I think that person looks rude
I think that person could be playing mind games
I think this woman doesn't like me
I think that man doesn't like me
I think that person will not like my way of talking or socializing
I think that person is a bad person
The pattern here is, "I THINK" - The problem is, people think, but people don't feel! People constantly assume & project! I see that all the time when I travel. People project their insecurities onto confident people. "Hey man, you might creep her out", or "That guy would never give that girl attention" or "That 250 pound 6'5 guy has probably anger issues" "I think that skinny guy can't fight" "Seriously? Is that really the truth? Or is there maybe a voice in you controlling your thoughts?
The pathological inner critic
The voice many wake up with & many go to sleep with. A really annoying voice, a voice that belittles you constantly & tells you how to do things & how to not do things. Guess what, there is no better way to see that than in the travelling context!!! You see deeply into peoples Psyche!
The Mask everyone is wearing
People are not showing you what they want. People have zero to little control over what emotions they show you. They fidget, fake smile, act nice, act pleasant, but that doesn't work on a human lie detector:) So, become a human lie detector!
The evil side of people
Many times people accused me of things, I fought back obviously, not physically, but these people eventually learned that it's a bad idea to mess with someone of high status & that has people of high status in his circle, so they realized also "This guy knows me better than I know myself". So, guess what, they backed off. People threatened me, people said some nasty things to me.
One time I was staying in a Hostel in Athens, Greece & a group of 5 young naive, fatherless men accused me of stealing the wallet of a Greek British guy. Then another group of 3 young fatherless men accused me of stealing a brazilian guys 500 dollar watch. One guy, a 21 year old dude from Serbia, doing boxing since 5 years, another guy, 20 years old doing kickboxing since 8 years & the other guy, the Brazilian guy himself, around 30. Childish, emotional guys. Dangerous for society, because they have no control over their emotions. In both cases, I was not guilty obviously.
I learned fast how many illusions these guys must carry in their heart. From believing that older men are evil, to hating their dad, to posturing, to rejecting their own masculinity, to viewing other men as competition & evil, is it a surprise, that these emasculated guys point their fingers at the most masculine guy? THE ONLY MASCULINE GUY...
See, I started researching dating advice back in 2014 or 2015 or 2016, I don't remember the exact year, soon after I started researching about how to become more masculine & hence I learned a lot about my own psyche & then years later about other mens psyche. The puzzle pieces came together & I realized whom to trust & whom to not. But see, these guys, don't trust masculine guys, because they associate masculinity with power abuse & that's exactly how they treated me. Where as older guys, usually 40+ invited me to drink with them, but young folks... No, envious looks, angry looks, posturing, insecurity, trying to one up me.
"Yeah but what has this to do with peoples psyche, travelling & your blog?"
At this point, stop reading my stuff. I'm not your teacher. I don't answer questions. I create them, that's what a mentor does. And that's exactly what I do in my field. Take walks in nature & reflect a little bit after every post of mine you read & please don't take notes. Learning, real learning is always on an emotional level, never on an mental level.
Those two stories were just two of many stories. Men outside my own culture have especially shown to be evil, manipulative, domineering & emasculated. They are not brave!
Where they were usually from? Western countries in most cases such as
Denmark
Norway
The Netherlands
Spain
Czech Republic
Italy
There were more countries, but In short, 93% of europe.
Some eastern countries
Turkey
Romania
But I also met the contrast...
Countries where men still are men. We will cover that in a different blog post though:)
To go back to the subject...
Why is it that people rely on assumptions?
It's safe
It's the known
There is no risk involved if we reject ourselves before even talking to someone
Our self-esteem won't get hurt or damaged (the average person can handle 10 rejections before their self-esteem is destroyed requiring decades of repair work)
Addiction to gossip
Brain wiring (some people are thinkers - some are philosophers - some are feelers)
They grew up in an environment where people aren't self-confident
They are afraid of the unknown
Close minded
But why are assumptions dangerous?You might miss out on opportunities (in business or dating)
You might stay stuck in illusions instead of breaking out of them
You will not grow as a person
You might stay stuck in toxic environments while the opportunity for breaking out of them exists
It lowers your IQ (I will link the study down below)
But why does it lower your IQ? Using your left brain hemisphere, is shown to lower IQ levels, due to the fact that you will create a imbalance in your overall neuropsychology & in your overall neurological hormone system. You are literally damaging your brain!!! Over use of your right brain hemisphere will do the same to you. Imagine if you just use your left hand, but never or barely your right hand... See, the connection?
The Study:
Give it a read! & let me know your thoughts down below & feel free to email me. I'll respond as I can, I can NOT promise if I can or will respond to every E-mail.
In that sense, thanks for reading.
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