Rude Hosts How to Wreck their Ego

Many hosts are rude!!! Most guests in shared accomodations especially HOSTELS are average Joe's, both male & female. Drinking, partying, ignoring locals, hence the owner gets angry & on top of that he doesn't get paid frequently by booking.com & more than half of the guests will talk to the host like he's a god or ancient king. But that's no excuse to treat you or me bad. So far into the preface...

The average Hostel Owner

Having been to about 230 Hostels, this is the average Hostel Owner. They don't tell you that they hate you, but they let you feel it.

But todays question is: If you can't put a rude host in his place, what else does that tell me about you? One day you will sit in front of your computer like I did a few years ago and you will realize that the world of travelling is not as it seems...

See, I used to be a very bad person. Hosts were able to talk to the way they wanted and I couldn't do much other than get angry. I felt powerless. I kept hanging out with toxic people & I didn't do much other than that. Going on some tours or on a safari or renting an ATV or ziplining through the jungle & stuff like that, no. All I cared about was partying & meeting girls, that was my travel life in a nutshell for what, 2 years maybe. But then I made changes in my life & the rest is history.

The things you gotta know regarding hosts

• Say no to wanna be alpha male behavior (posturing and so forth)

• Reject intimidation tactics

• He's loud? It means he's insecure and chances are he's depressed or anxious or a mix or all of it - either way! Say no to his loud behavior! Confidence is quiet! Insecurity is loud!

• He needs to earn YOUR respect first (no guests no money)

• Your needs before his!

• At least 50% of hosts hate their guests but they don't tell you - every once in a while with a hand covering their mouth they tell me when no one is around

• You are not his friend! Nor partner! Nor child! You're an adult! Make him talk to you that way! Otherwise he can say goodbye to his business (at least in the US, that's how we roll there)

• Most hosts just see you as a transaction

So how can you wreck a rude hosts ego?

Speak to his real self not his ego self!

Which self do you show others?

Yeah... Not easy...

Other methods include

• Not giving him attention

• Not giving him validation

• Not biting when he attacks you personally

Narcissists will hate you & fear you! If you learn these techniques!

But why does it matter so much in the travelling context?

See, let's say you are staying in a hostel or a guesthouse where to Host is always around, & you hate that guy (female hosts are usually sweet but definitely not always!), being in that situations sucks, right? So what will you do? You need to know how to protect your peace, right!?

Most people try to destroy someones ego from speaking from their own ego to someone elses ego, but the world doesn't work like that:) You need to speak from your ego self or from your real self to HIS real self & I'll explain why! If you speak from your ego, but you are empowered & you try wrecking a rude hosts ego, that means you no longer are attached to your wounds... Imagine what damage you can do to a narcissist:) Now imagine if you speak from your authentic real self & you use my techniques, he will forever remember the damage you did to him (the rude host).

My Teenage Years

In my teens I used to be very narcissistic & been called so all the time. I don't blame the people. Insecurity is loud, confidence is quiet. Insecurity is uncomfortable, confidence provides comfort, not just to you, but also to others. Does that mean I was like that all the time, no, but that doesn't really matter. My core was maybe not narcissistic, but I might have been close to it. From overestimating myself to having the narcissistic mood swings, to needing to be the center of attention all the time, to feeling bad when I wasn't & even crying almost when I was 19 maybe 20... I used to be a terrible person... I had great mentors in the past that made me realize where my weak spots are & having identified them & healed those patterns makes me possibly the person you wanna talk to regarding questions like

• Narcissists control me - what do I do against it?

• Narcissists control my mood - how do I break out?

• When travelling I keep meeting toxic people - how to I stop that from happening?

• When travelling I keep meeting people that play mind games & I always lose - how can I win? (The game you don't play is the game you always win)

Be like Joker

Why? He knows all the games that narcs (narcissists) play & he plays it better. But he is not evil. He is the good guy. That's the whole psychology of the villain, paint a bad picture on the guy who exposes things. As you can see he is feared in the movie exactly because of that. Wherever I guy tourists tend to be scared of me because I know their agendas. I enter a room & I can read the environment, the whole room & all I need is one look. Be that person! That's the person I will turn you into. Trust me, tourists will fear you. Because think about it. They usually hangout with a specific type of people & if you don't fit that category, guess what, they are gonna call you names.

Regardless of your age, whatever has brought you here, you feel it & you don't like it. You want more control over your life. I can help you with that & I will, but the first step is to stop thinking that you need to participate in those mind games in the first place. I can teach you that, hehe, but I can't reveal that yet, maybe some other time in like some coaching programm for that matter:) No free lunch here baby:) You know how it goes in the US, right? We work hard for everything & so will have you. "Huh? I thought I will just read your blog posts & I will become equipped with everything I need" , Hahaha, yeah, good luck with that. You will need way more.

Hardship forges you

Commitment & Intention

Flowers grow, but not immediately, give it time... 90 days bare minimum... So start today by giving a commitment "I (XYZ), commit myself fully to this journey where I work toward becoming a real traveller & leave the world if tourism behind & wrecking rude hosts ego & outgrowing toxic environments & toxic people". This commitment is essential! Feel free to e-mail me, I will respond if I find the time.

The Process of Success

In the next article we will dive into some phrases you can say to these folks & I will be explaining the exact psychological mechanisms why these phrases work.

Ever dealt with a rude host?

• Yes
• NO
• Often

In that sense, thanks for reading.

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